When you get ready to leave your house, how do you dress? Do you put on a t-shirt, cargo shorts, baseball hat and flip flops? A nice polo and holey jeans? Or khakis and a pressed shirt?
Although it may depend on where you’re going, you should dress to impress. You should look good. It doesn’t mean you need to be in a tux, unless the event calls for that.
What does your style say about you? What can you do to improve it and have it align with whom you want to become?
When you look good, you feel good. You feel as though you can conquer the world, get that promotion, or get the girl’s attention, whether it’s a potential mate or your current spouse. When you feel good, you feel like nothing can stop you from doing and achieving. SHARE THIS!
Yet when you throw on your favorite pair of cargo shorts, even though they may be comfortable, you don’t have that feeling of Braveheart going into battle knowing you’re going to kick ass and take names.
You feel a little less confident, and it shows although you may not realize it. Your shoulders roll in a bit more. You tend to look down or away instead of looking people in the eyes. You don’t want too much attention, because then you start feeling insecure about how you’re dressed or that you didn’t fix your hair and just threw on a ball cap. And in your head make excuses.
I don’t want that hot chick to look at me, because “Well, I was just running into the store.”
My wife doesn’t care (really she does).
This is my style. I like to be comfortable.
When you dress to impress it’s not about impressing other people. It’s about being comfortable in your own skin and knowing no matter the situation or who you may run into, you’re confident and secure with whom you are. Feeling comfortable in your own skin and in your attire radiates externally and people pick up on it. They see through your lack of confidence, and it holds you back in every aspect of your life. TWEET THIS!
When you leave your house, even if you’re going to the grocery store, don’t toss on the first thing that’s not wrinkled. Add five minutes to putting together your wardrobe. Resemble the guy you want to become. The guy who cares about how he looks, not for others, but for himself. The guy who puts on certain clothes, because they make him feel good. They give him more confidence to take control, take charge, and be the powerful man he is…because he knows he can conquer the world in that attire.
You never know who you’re going to run into when you’re out and about. You could see your future boss, spouse, or client. You don’t want to be apologizing for how you look or look the other way pretending not to see them.
Your style should make you:
1. Feel confident enough to approach a girl or potential client and starting a conversation
2. Push your shoulders back and carry your head high
3. Look people in the eyes instead of looking at the ground
4. Not shy away from people noticing how hot you look, because you know you look good. Not from an ego standpoint, but you just know you got it going on
5. Stand in your power in any instance that arises
Yes, a wardrobe can make you feel this way. If you’ve never experienced this, then you need to grab your spouse, girlfriend, friend who has great style and have her go shopping with you. Yes, even if you hate shopping.
Dress to impress. Not for others, but for yourself. Because when you know you look good, it increases your confidence. And your confidence (or lack of) can be seen from across the room. When you have more confidence, you’re able to go into any situation, experience, or battle and kick ass and take names. After all, you want to feel like Braveheart when you take names. SHARE THIS!
I want to hear from you. In the comments below, share with me how what you wear impacts your confidence for the day.
Jessica Rector’s mission is simple: transform the lives of men. As someone who attempted suicide at 17-years-old, had a lot of self-judgement around being a single parent, and has a brother who committed suicide, Jessica knows challenges, issues, and pain. She knows personally how shame can manifest in parenting, relationships, leading, working, and living. Through her own experiences, research, and strategies, she now helps men walk through the process to free themselves from their inner struggles. As a thought leader, keynote speaker, and author of two books, Jessica is able to help men become who they are while stepping into their power by becoming a better badass version of themselves. Get Jessica’s soon to be released third book, Breaking the Silence: Taking the Sh out of Shame and follow her on Facebook by CLICKING HERE. Connect with her and join her tribe for men at THIS MAN THING FACEBOOK GROUP.