Coach With Jessica
Do you have fears? They can be small, debilitating, or anywhere in between.
Do you have stress? Stress that might keep you in limbo (not making a decision), feeling stuck, or unhappy.
Are you struggling? The struggle may keep you up at night or lead to more drinking (drugs, gambling, or skirt chasing), depression, or thoughts of suicide.
Do you have shame (yes, that dreadful word)? The shame, whether it’s something from childhood or recent, you keep hiding.
You’re not alone. You’re in the right place. These same things affect most men in their lives, and they are suffering in silence. Not knowing where or how to get help. As a man, you’re taught not to ask for help or that asking for help is a sign of weakness. After all, as a man you should be able to fix things on your own, right?!
WRONG! You’re human, and you need help just like everyone. You didn’t build your career on your own. You didn’t excel in school, sports, or academics on your own. You had help, whether it was a teacher, coach, boss, peer, parent, tutor, or friend. NO ONE makes it in life on his own.
You can’t do life on your own…and you shouldn’t have to.
And now you don’t!
That’s where I come in. I know what you may be thinking, How is a woman going to help a man with these things? Wouldn’t a man better be able to identify with me?
My brother was just like you…He was a successful oil and gas company executive. He made lots of money, had multiple house, cars, toys, and gadgets. He was married with two step-kids, and from the outside everything looked great. Yet on the inside he was struggling. He had the inner conflict.
When my family had an intervention for him, he had done drugs an alcohol for 20 years and was highly functioning (In fact, you would’ve never known he was an addict). He was clean and sober for 5 years before he started drinking again. Then one night I got the called that changed my life. My brother who had just turned 40 committed suicide.
It shook my world. Since I was only 13 months younger than he was, people often mistook us for twins growing up, and when I attempted suicide at 17-years-old, he said, “Jessica, don’t ever do that again. I’m always here for you to talk to.” The irony was not lost on me, and the pain was excruciating.
After the initial shock wore off, I dug in. I had already done a lot of work around shame, fears, and authenticity, because I had coached hundreds of people over the past several years on these. Now, I wanted to understand why someone who looked like they had it all was so miserable. I also knew if this could happen to my charming, likable brother then it could happen to anyone. I read anything I could get my hands on. The more I researched about men, the more I recognized the need to help men and how little is being done to do it. So, I talked with hundreds of men and mentored them with their challenges, frustrations, and struggles, and they have shared their hurt, pain, stress, and sufferings.
Just like you, they want help but never knew where to get help. What I’ve found through my research and work with men is society and parents teach boys not to show emotions…don’t cry, be tough and strong.
So boys push down their emotions. As this compacts for 10, 20, or 30 years, these boys who are now men do whatever it takes to not feel…their goal is to numb themselves whether they choose alcohol, drugs, girls, gambling, dangerous activities, or become workaholics. In essence, although they want and need an outlet, they don’t have one, so they become ticking time bombs.
Maybe you’ve even tried to talk to a friend or a spouse about what you’re going through, and you were shot down or misunderstood. Either way, you weren’t met with compassion and empathy, so you know never to do that again which just enables you to keep pushing down your emotions.
You’ve gotten to the point that you just can’t do it anymore by yourself. You don’t want to do it anymore. You’re ready to figure out what’s holding you back, reduce your stress, pressure, or anxiety, and break through to your next level. You’re ready to feel like a champion again (like the Rocky kind of champion not the fake kind you’ve been pretending to be).
You’re ready to take the next step, because you’re ready to say YES to you…
Not yes to how you’ve been living but YES to how you want to be living.
Are you ready to…???
- Find out what’s really holding you back
- Break through professional and personal blocks
- Tackle pressure, stress, and struggles
- Strategize to find your purpose or what’s next for you
If you said, “Yes” to any of the above, then I’d love to talk with you to see how I can help.
Sign up for a complimentary discovery call with Jessica to take the next step to reduce your pressure, stress, and struggles today.