You’re thinking too much about it. What will he say when I ask for a raise? If I talk to her, what if she doesn’t like me? What are they going to think if I share my idea or thoughts?
You think, over think, and analyze what may, might, or possibly happen. Then you talk yourself out of doing it. If you just had the confidence to go for it, things would be different. You’d feel differently. You could be bold and ask for a raise, talk to a stranger, or share your thoughts more easily. It’d allow you to start your own business, change job positions, or ask her out.
But how do you increase your confidence? As long as you remember you’ve been this way. You want to be liked. Everyone does, but it keeps you from being who you really are and getting what you want. You don’t like the idea of getting rejected, whether by not getting what you ask for or their not liking you, is just too much to think about sometimes. SHARE THIS!
In a way, you’d rather not risk that. In another way, you want more. You deserve more. You’re tired of being in the same place. So now is your time to step it up so you can start getting what you want.
Confidence plays a vital role in everything you do. It affects how much money you make, the relationships you have, your posture, and how you parent, lead, love, and live. Having confidence will increase the respect others have for you and the respect that you have for yourself. Confidence is not the same as arrogance, selfish, or being self-righteous. TWEET THIS!
Confidence is believing in yourself and knowing you are worthy…and you are worthy. With confidence, you’re not rude, demanding, or belittling. You don’t allow your ego to get in the way. You’re just able to stand up for yourself, your beliefs, and what you want. You’re able to share your ideas, thoughts, and voice, in a bigger way knowing they have value.
It’s not about going from where you are to where you want to be ultimately. It’s about taking small steps in that direction. Sometimes if you’re stretched too far outside your comfort zone all at once, you retreat further back than where you were before. We don’t want that to happen.
We want to lovingly stretch you a little more and more. So that way you can see and feel the progress you’re making.
Let’s start with one way you can increase your confidence now. Smile at someone in the store or say hi to someone you pass by. It sounds like something so small, but it makes such a huge difference to the other person and to your confidence. Something as simple as that can be intimidating when you’re not used to doing it. However, the more you do it, the easier it becomes to keep doing it.
Make sure you consistently do this. So every time you go to the store, you say, “Hi” to someone. When you pass by someone in the hall at work, smile at her. This keeps yourself open to a conversation that might occur or a question you might be asked. It allows you to become more approachable and more likable.
So what will you do today to stretch yourself and build your confidence?
Jessica Rector’s mission is simple: transform lives. With a BBA, MBA and BS, Jessica started, hosted, and produced her own TV talk show in Los Angeles with just an idea to help others which launched her first company jessICAREctor International. As someone who attempted suicide as a teen, had a lot of self-judgment around being a single parent, and has a brother who died by suicide, Jessica knows challenges, issues, and pain and how to turn them into something good. Through her own experiences, research, and strategies, she helps you break through your inner struggles and free yourself. As a thought leader, keynote speaker, and author, Jessica consults with companies, coaches individuals, and speaks at conferences, conventions, and organizations helping you change what you say to yourself about yourself to change your thoughts and actions to change your life. Jessica is a Contributor for The Huffington Post and The Good Men Project and has been seen on ABC, NBC, CBS, FOX, Business Journal, and Market Watch. Get Jessica’s third book, Breaking the Silence: Taking the Sh out of Shame at jessicarector.com. Follow her on Facebook by CLICKING HERE.