Confidence is hot. It’s sexy. Every man should want more confidence. In fact, most men do…at least one area of his life. Confidence to approach a woman. Confidence to step into a gym. Confidence to stand up for himself. Confidence to grow a beard. Confidence to just be himself.

Where does confidence come from and how do you get more of it?

You’re born with confidence. Just look at any little kid, and you’ll see it. They jump off furniture. They tell you exactly how they feel. They approach other kids at the park to play. As you grow and get older, that’s when your confidence wades, because you start listening to what others say about you. SHARE THIS! You start believing the who do you think you are sayings like “You’re not that smart (funny, handsome, athletic). So and so is better.” Then you say them to yourself and each time you do, your confidence decreases.

You’ve had those things in your head for years. Now, you show up as a fraction of the person who you really are. You want more confidence in yourself, in your ability to do and be, but you don’t know how to get it.

Confidence comes in doing. The more you do, the more confident you are. But before you do, you must have the courage to take action. Everyone has the courage, so why aren’t you taking action?

You must be willing to step into that courage. You must be willing to put that courage under fire. SHARE THIS! You won’t know what can actually happen if you don’t risk. If you don’t bet on you. I know if you make up your mind to do something and you really want it, you’ll make it happen.

That’s human nature. You find a way to get things, make things happen you really want. If you want that big screen TV for the games, you’ll find a way to get it. So how badly do you want it? How badly do you want confidence? How badly do you want to ask out the girl? How badly do you want the raise? How badly do you want to lose weight? How badly do you want to stop feeling helpless? How badly do you want more from life?

If you want it badly enough, you’ll make it happen. And in wanting it, you’ll also step boldly into your courage and take action which will give you confidence.

You’re not entitled to confidence. It doesn’t come because you want it. If that was the case, everyone would have a lot of confidence and then it wouldn’t be valued in the same way. SHARE THIS! You must be willing to put yourself out there in order to increase your confidence. When you do, you’ll get back ten-fold what you’re wanting. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. And just like with anything, the more you do it, the more your confidence will increase.

So risk. Be bold. Be brave. Bet on you. Put your courage under fire. Find out what you’re made of and then you’ll reap the rewards that come with having more confidence. Now the only thing left to do is ask yourself, How badly do you want it?


Jessica Rector’s mission is simple: transform lives. With a BBA, MBA and BS, Jessica started, hosted, and produced her own TV talk show in Los Angeles with just an idea to help others which launched her first company jessICAREctor International. As someone who attempted suicide as a teen, had a lot of self-judgment around being a single parent, and has a brother who died by suicide, Jessica knows challenges, issues, and pain and how to turn them into something good. Through her own experiences, research, and strategies, she helps you break through your inner struggles and free yourself. As a thought leader, keynote speaker, and author, Jessica consults with companies, coaches individuals, and speaks at conferences, conventions, and organizations helping you change what you say to yourself about yourself to change your thoughts and actions to change your life. Jessica is a Contributor for The Huffington Post and The Good Men Project and has been seen on ABC, NBC, CBS, FOX, Business Journal, and Market Watch. Get Jessica’s third book, Breaking the Silence: Taking the Sh out of Shame at Follow her on Facebook by CLICKING HERE.

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